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Happy Mother's Day!
I'll admit, I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with this (and many other) holidays. I absolutely believe mothers should be honored and thanked. I recognize that sometimes, if there's isn't a special day set aside many people will neglecting doing something special, or recognizing the mothers in their lives.
I do not appreciate the commercialization of this day. I am concerned about how this day can have an unintentional impact on others, such as:
People who's mothers have died.
Mothers estranged from their children/children estranged from their mothers.
Children who have never had someone to call mother.
Women who have given children through adoption to other families to raise.
Women who want to be mothers, but are unable to be a mother.
Women who have lost children in pregnancy or as infants.
Women who have lost grown children.
I have spoken with women who avoid going out, or going to church on this day, because flowers are handed out to mothers, and they sit there, mourning their infertility, or suffering in the knowledge that others don't recognize that they are a mother, even though they have no living children.
Maybe I'll still end up being unintentionally insensitive. I hope not, because that's not my goal.
To my family and friends who have born children who didn't have a chance to live and grow, or who have given children to other families to raise - Happy Mother's Day. You are a mother, and you are not forgotten.
To my friends and family who want children to love and raise up, Happy Mother's Day - you have been a mother to my children, and to other people's children. Thank you for your giving heart.
To my family and friends who have raised children, only to have them pass on too soon - Happy Mother's Day. You are loved and remembered.
To my friends and family who have estranged relationships with their children or mothers, Happy Mother's Day. Your experience of this day is complex, with no one or right answer. I know that oftentimes you love and hope, even if from a distance of miles or years.
To all of you who no longer can say "Happy Mother's Day" to your mothers, I'm glad that you have memories of the wonderful women who have been mothers in your life. Thank you for loving and honoring those who have gone before us, and those who are mothers for us now.
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Saturday, May 11, 2013
closing in on summer
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We're getting close to summer.
Lawns are being mowed, we've started some kale and lettuce in our containers. I have some strawberry plants to replace the old ones I managed to kill last year. So, we'll have a small container garden up and running.
Elizabeth is doing very well with reading. She's reading aloud confidently, and sounding out unfamiliar large words.
Nathanael is expressing interest in letters and words, so we've done some occassional work.
Adelle's interest in language is mostly toddler-ish. "Mommeeee!! Up! Up!" Or "Da! Hi!" Her other words are hit or miss - words that she used before, she doesn't use now. And, instead of saying words, she prefers to nod yes to anything, and everything. At least now animals are getting different sounds instead of the ubiquitous "grunt, grunt."
I'm experiencing mommy guilt, but as we all know, that's nothing new. Right now, my guilt is centering around the fact that I haven't printed Adelle's one year portraits yet. She's almost 18 months. Maybe I'll take the 18 month portraits, and then just send them all at the same time. 2 for 1!
I did a 5k in April, and managed to finish in less than 45 minutes. My mom came in exactly 3 minutes behind me, and we were both glad to be done walking/running. I now have a running buddy here, though, so I'm hopeful that our bimonthly get-togethers will spur me on to further progress.
I finally (quickly) found a geocache I'd been hunting and missing. Don't know why it didn't occur to me to look on the other side. Probably I was trying to keep young children from falling into the icy water?
I'm getting rid of stuff. I have boxes of things piled up. I'm planned to do a yard sale at some point this summer, and the rest will be given to Salvation Army/Freecycle. So.Much.Clutter.
I am grateful my city offers curbside recycling. I feel a lot better about throwing out old magazines, papers, and random whatevers. And grateful for freecycle. I wonder if I could freecycle my extra body weight? Jude hasn't been too interested in swapping metabolisms with me, so I guess it's all on me now.
My mental self-talk involves a lot of "I'm fat." Which is probably because people didn't recognize me when they hadn't seen me for a few years. And I've gained about 20 pounds since November 2011. Not cool. Midlife metabolism change? Probably. (yay 34!) General sense of stress/emotional eating? Absolutely! (You mean I shouldn't seek validation in my food?!) I'd like to blame it on not having the genetic switch that makes me want to exercise. I saw something about that on TV recently. Maybe I should be watching less TV. But why, when there are so many yummy-looking recipes to make? Especially the sugar-laden carby ones?
I have half a cow sitting in my freezer, waiting to be used. If I were 2/3 of my brothers, I'd totally be grilling that beef. However, I feel my grill is inadequate, and I am embarassed to bring it out to grill on my patio. It's a teeny camping charcoal grill. I should get over it. Who cares what the neighbors, with their big, shiny, no-squatting-to-turn-the-meat, propane grills think. I got beef. And summer is made for grilling.
And spring, and fall, and winter if you ask my brother.
We're getting close to summer.
Lawns are being mowed, we've started some kale and lettuce in our containers. I have some strawberry plants to replace the old ones I managed to kill last year. So, we'll have a small container garden up and running.
Elizabeth is doing very well with reading. She's reading aloud confidently, and sounding out unfamiliar large words.
Nathanael is expressing interest in letters and words, so we've done some occassional work.
Adelle's interest in language is mostly toddler-ish. "Mommeeee!! Up! Up!" Or "Da! Hi!" Her other words are hit or miss - words that she used before, she doesn't use now. And, instead of saying words, she prefers to nod yes to anything, and everything. At least now animals are getting different sounds instead of the ubiquitous "grunt, grunt."
I'm experiencing mommy guilt, but as we all know, that's nothing new. Right now, my guilt is centering around the fact that I haven't printed Adelle's one year portraits yet. She's almost 18 months. Maybe I'll take the 18 month portraits, and then just send them all at the same time. 2 for 1!
I did a 5k in April, and managed to finish in less than 45 minutes. My mom came in exactly 3 minutes behind me, and we were both glad to be done walking/running. I now have a running buddy here, though, so I'm hopeful that our bimonthly get-togethers will spur me on to further progress.
I finally (quickly) found a geocache I'd been hunting and missing. Don't know why it didn't occur to me to look on the other side. Probably I was trying to keep young children from falling into the icy water?
I'm getting rid of stuff. I have boxes of things piled up. I'm planned to do a yard sale at some point this summer, and the rest will be given to Salvation Army/Freecycle. So.Much.Clutter.
I am grateful my city offers curbside recycling. I feel a lot better about throwing out old magazines, papers, and random whatevers. And grateful for freecycle. I wonder if I could freecycle my extra body weight? Jude hasn't been too interested in swapping metabolisms with me, so I guess it's all on me now.
My mental self-talk involves a lot of "I'm fat." Which is probably because people didn't recognize me when they hadn't seen me for a few years. And I've gained about 20 pounds since November 2011. Not cool. Midlife metabolism change? Probably. (yay 34!) General sense of stress/emotional eating? Absolutely! (You mean I shouldn't seek validation in my food?!) I'd like to blame it on not having the genetic switch that makes me want to exercise. I saw something about that on TV recently. Maybe I should be watching less TV. But why, when there are so many yummy-looking recipes to make? Especially the sugar-laden carby ones?
I have half a cow sitting in my freezer, waiting to be used. If I were 2/3 of my brothers, I'd totally be grilling that beef. However, I feel my grill is inadequate, and I am embarassed to bring it out to grill on my patio. It's a teeny camping charcoal grill. I should get over it. Who cares what the neighbors, with their big, shiny, no-squatting-to-turn-the-meat, propane grills think. I got beef. And summer is made for grilling.
And spring, and fall, and winter if you ask my brother.
Friday, April 05, 2013
Elizabeth is 6
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I'm late posting, but my darling girl turned 6 a couple months ago.
Such a precious girl.
Things about E:
She is missing her two front teeth and the two bottom teeth on either side of her front teeth. I can't think of what those are called, and clearly haven't the motivation to google the answer. Just be glad I'm even blogging anything, yo.
She ADORES anything princess, fairy, tea party.
When she grows up, she's going to be a paleontologist-gymnast-dancer-actress-doctor-mommy. I'm most proud of the last one - it's the only one that stays the same, and hey it must mean that I'm doing something right. Or that as six she's figured me out and is already planning to do better.
Favorite color steadfastly remains RED.
She is the queen of the segue as non sequitur - "Speaking of {whatever} I think we should have a tea party!"
E can read, and read pretty well. Her read alouds are pretty smooth and she appears to be reading the sentences as a whole (in general) rather than as discrete words.
She got her own camera for her birthday, and has been taking tons of selfies and making videos. Perhaps she'll be a photographer like her mom or dad. Or a TV producer or a star in her own Food Network show.
She's testing out her independence. She just recently asked to take showers instead of baths. She is asking for guitar lessons from Jude. She rides her bike (no training wheels!) by herself, and usually remembers to put on her helmet. She doesn't usually want anyone to buckle her carseat harness - she can do it herself, thankyouverymuch. She sometimes helps with meal preparation. She wants to do lots of things by herself. I have to remember to let her try.
I'm late posting, but my darling girl turned 6 a couple months ago.
Things about E:
She is missing her two front teeth and the two bottom teeth on either side of her front teeth. I can't think of what those are called, and clearly haven't the motivation to google the answer. Just be glad I'm even blogging anything, yo.
She ADORES anything princess, fairy, tea party.
When she grows up, she's going to be a paleontologist-gymnast-dancer-actress-doctor-mommy. I'm most proud of the last one - it's the only one that stays the same, and hey it must mean that I'm doing something right. Or that as six she's figured me out and is already planning to do better.
Favorite color steadfastly remains RED.
She is the queen of the segue as non sequitur - "Speaking of {whatever} I think we should have a tea party!"
E can read, and read pretty well. Her read alouds are pretty smooth and she appears to be reading the sentences as a whole (in general) rather than as discrete words.
She got her own camera for her birthday, and has been taking tons of selfies and making videos. Perhaps she'll be a photographer like her mom or dad. Or a TV producer or a star in her own Food Network show.
She's testing out her independence. She just recently asked to take showers instead of baths. She is asking for guitar lessons from Jude. She rides her bike (no training wheels!) by herself, and usually remembers to put on her helmet. She doesn't usually want anyone to buckle her carseat harness - she can do it herself, thankyouverymuch. She sometimes helps with meal preparation. She wants to do lots of things by herself. I have to remember to let her try.
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
little things
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My mom talks about her grateful book. She writes down things that she is grateful for, and it helps her remember all the things in life that are blessings to her.
Here are a few things I am grateful for, and that make me happy:
Adelle:
5 days ago, she made noises that were kind of horse-like while playing with horses.
2 days ago, Adelle made a "Whoo-Whoo!" noise when reading "The Little Engine That Could."
Yesterday, she starts intentional blinks in an effort to wink at Jude.
I don't know what she'll do today, but it will probably be awesome.
Nathanael:
He plays like I remember my brothers did - lots of sound effects, running around flying his lego planes.
He comes up with Wild Stories, and often inserts the word "bottom" or "poop."
He is a superhero. Depending on the minute, he could be Spiderman or Captain America. Or a Train Superhero.
Elizabeth:
My lovely girl is an author and artist. She has been making books and illustrating them. We got her a sketch book to start recording her ideas for keeping. Some of her stories are big enough that we transcribe them for her.
She loves purses and small boxes for keeping things. Very much like her Nana.
At the same time, she loves superheros and transformers. She settled for a Transformers toothbrush when I said no to the battery-powered light saber toothbrush.
My mom talks about her grateful book. She writes down things that she is grateful for, and it helps her remember all the things in life that are blessings to her.
Here are a few things I am grateful for, and that make me happy:
Adelle:
5 days ago, she made noises that were kind of horse-like while playing with horses.
2 days ago, Adelle made a "Whoo-Whoo!" noise when reading "The Little Engine That Could."
Yesterday, she starts intentional blinks in an effort to wink at Jude.
I don't know what she'll do today, but it will probably be awesome.
Nathanael:
He plays like I remember my brothers did - lots of sound effects, running around flying his lego planes.
He comes up with Wild Stories, and often inserts the word "bottom" or "poop."
He is a superhero. Depending on the minute, he could be Spiderman or Captain America. Or a Train Superhero.
Elizabeth:
My lovely girl is an author and artist. She has been making books and illustrating them. We got her a sketch book to start recording her ideas for keeping. Some of her stories are big enough that we transcribe them for her.
She loves purses and small boxes for keeping things. Very much like her Nana.
At the same time, she loves superheros and transformers. She settled for a Transformers toothbrush when I said no to the battery-powered light saber toothbrush.
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